Everybody’s heard the phrase, “be your best self.” But what does it really mean? How do you do it? And how will it make you better than anyone else?
Well, we’re glad you asked— because that’s exactly what this post is about. Check out the fifteen ways below to find out just how to be your best self.
1: Avoid negative people
One of the biggest ways to be your best self is to steer clear of negativity wherever you can. We know this may seem counter-intuitive, but the numbers speak for themselves:
65 percent of people surveyed said they change their behavior in response to a negative comment.
99 percent of people said they change their behavior in response to positive comments.
But why is this, exactly?
The reason is that our brains are hard-wired to make changes in response to positive or negative situations. It’s a psychological phenomenon known as “negativity bias,” which refers to the fact that humans give greater weight and influence to negative stimuli. As a result, we tend to respond more intensely and immediately towards negative emotions than positive ones.
2: Take care of your body
It’s shocking how many people neglect their bodies in order to succeed at something. The truth is, you can’t be your best self if you don’t take care of the very foundation of all those things that matter most: your health.
What does taking care of your health mean, exactly? It means eating well, exercising regularly and getting good sleep. Your body is like a machine, and if you don’t put good fuel in it, it won’t run as well as it could. Plus, healthier people have better self-esteem and work better with others.
3: Make time for relaxing activities
It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that we forget to take the time for relaxing activities. But these things are absolutely necessary if you want to be your best self.
The best way to relax is to do something that you enjoy. We know, we know— sometimes doing the things you enjoy takes a lot of time. But while it may not be your hobby, it’s important to have fun in life. And when you find time for yourself and your hobbies, you’ll be able to relax and destress whenever things get stressful at work or home.
It’s also important to set aside time for yourself every day. That may sound simple, but you’d be surprised at how few people actually do it. Take the first five minutes of each hour and do something fun and relaxing. This will get you into a better mood, which in turn makes you more productive—all because you took time to destress!
4: Give your gifts
Your purpose in life is not just about being a big shot or having a fancy title. It’s about doing what you do in a way that adds value to the world.
Doing things with this intention in mind helps you find a sense of purpose, fulfillment, and accomplishment. And when you’re doing what you love and adding value to the world, it’s impossible to be anything but your best self.
5: Live every day like it’s your last
Don’t wait until tomorrow or next year to live your life to the fullest. Live each day as if it’s your last. Take advantage of the opportunities, go out and experience new things, and make life your greatest adventure.
When you live every day as if it’s your last, you will do amazing things, make incredible memories, and have a better chance at living a fulfilling life.
6: Be grateful for everything in life
You can’t control most of what’s around you. But you can control your thoughts, emotions, and the decisions you make.
Gratitude is all about living in the moment and taking advantage of what’s happening right now. Gratitude is like oxygen—you don’t have much of it in life. But people who practice gratitude breathe more deeply and live fuller, richer lives.
Gratitude keeps your heart open to love, happiness, and meaning in life. It helps you see the beauty in everything around you.
Be grateful for your friends, your family, the food on your plate, and the place you call home. When you’re grateful for these things every day, it will create positive feelings that will keep you happy and smile more often.
7: Add more gratitude to your life by writing it down.
The easiest way to turn gratitude into a habit is to keep a daily journal where you write down the things in your life for which you are grateful.
It’s an easy way to express appreciation for what you have and stay motivated throughout the day. It also helps you make more lasting changes in your life by improving how you feel about things in general, not just specific things like love or money.
Writing things down just help you see the good stuff more often, and it improves your memory in a way that gives you more confidence when you’re talking to people or thinking about things.
This is one of the main benefits of meditation, too. Writing down everything that’s coming to mind is easier than talking about it in real time. So all of that mental chatter becomes written wisdom in your mind. You’ll learn to trust your intuition and a new sense of freedom will come over you as well.
8: Take action as soon as you can
We all have big dreams, but unfortunately most of us never take the steps to make those dreams into a reality.
A big part of taking action is first getting clear on what it is that you want. Having clarity in your direction will help guide you in the right direction and will increase your chances for success. But even with a clear vision of where you’re headed, it’s still easy to get distracted from your purpose and wander down other paths, especially when life gets busy.
The best way to stay on the correct path and not get distracted is to become an expert at taking action. You have to be good at doing things the first time so you can keep doing them over and over again.
Action is often easier than contemplation, so it’s important to train your brain in this area as well. You can start by identifying all of the small steps and habits you can make that will get you closer toward your goal.
9: Spend time in nature
One of the most powerful ways to acknowledge all the beauty in the world is to spend some time in nature. In order to be your best self, you need to be surrounded by something beautiful, just as it is.
Being around nature has been shown to increase happiness and psychological well-being. When you’re stressed out and busy with things, simply being outdoors will help you relax and destress. It’s also been shown that spending time in nature makes a person more resilient to stress and anxiety.
The best part of being outside is that it can help improve your mood and behavior in a variety of ways. It helps you be more creative, healthier, and happier.
Be sure to take the time you need to get away from all the stresses of your daily life. Once you free yourself from stress, you’ll be able to find happiness in other aspects of your life as well.
10: Take time for play
When you’re stressed out, it’s easy to focus on all the things that are wrong with your life. But there’s so much more to life than work and the things that bring stress into your life.
When you paint your mind black with negativity, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of unhappiness. But there’s a way out. You just have to remember what is good about life and choose to live in the moment instead of obsessing over tomorrow or yesterday’s mistakes.
One of the best ways to do this is to take time for play. A day without play is a day wasted. It’s good for your body, your mind, and your soul. It helps you move forward and get back on track when things get rough.
Take time to relax, laugh, and be silly on a regular basis. Go on a hike with friends or have a dance party with strangers at the club.
11: Be your greatest self
Another effective way to turn bad experiences and growing pains into a better life is to embrace your goals and live in the moment.
It’s tempting to get caught up trying to look back on past mistakes and learn from them. But your attention should be focused on what you have right in front of you, not what’s gone wrong or what might go wrong in the future. Not everything that goes wrong is a bad thing.
You should embrace your past so you can move forward into a better future. You have to let go of the baggage from the past and embrace what’s ahead. Turn your life into a success story, instead of a tragedy.
Everyone has been through hard times and bad situations that caused them pain or despair. But by learning from those situations, you can use those lessons to build a better future for yourself.
12: Start to trust in yourself
One of the most powerful ways to stop doubting yourself is to start trusting in your abilities.
You have talents that can’t be explained by just saying “I’m good at this.” You have natural strengths and weaknesses that you’re capable of bettering and mastering. The best part about having a deep belief in yourself is you don’t need external validation or approval from others in order to be happy. You feel good about who you are because of what you know about yourself.
Trust takes time to build, but it can go a long way in helping you be more confident. When you trust yourself, other people will be put at ease and will feel more comfortable around you.
When you don’t trust yourself, other people see that and they won’t want to hang around too long either. What this all comes down to is that when times get tough, it’s hard to believe in or count on yourself when your own mind and body are telling you that everything is going wrong.
13: Take more risks
In order to be your greatest self, you have to let your true self emerge. And you can’t do that if you’re always playing it safe and taking the easy way out.
Taking big risks in life will be uncomfortable and scary, but that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong thing to do. It’s okay to feel scared, because at the end of the day you’re never going to live a fearless life.
You need to take risks and be uncomfortable in order to grow. You need to push boundaries and rise to the occasion. If you’re too scared too take a risk, then you’re going to stay stagnant and never be able to advance your life and career in a meaningful way.
You don’t have to dive headfirst into things you feel uncomfortable about, but there’s no reason why taking small steps toward your goals shouldn’t be exciting and challenging. You’ll grow at a faster rate when you do this.
14: Develop a passion
Ever since the time we were kids, we’ve been told that “passion is what makes the world go round.” If you don’t have passion, then you’re setting yourself up for a life of mediocrity. Passion is what drives people to do their best and focuses them on their goals.
It’s easy to get frustrated when things get hard and you don’t see immediate results from your efforts. But remember that life can’t give you everything you need right away. Sometimes you have to work on yourself a little bit more and get to the point where you have the passion to be successful in life.
You don’t need to do this overnight, like studying for a big exam. Instead, focus on developing your passion in small steps. There’s no need to rush things so that you can live out your life in fear of failure. You should feel confident and ready no matter what’s coming your way.
15: Adopt a growth mindset
Instead of focusing on who you’re trying to be and what you’re trying to achieve, focus on learning how to become the best version of yourself.
When you adopt a growth mindset, it doesn’t matter where you came from or how far away your goals are. All that matters is that you keep working hard and developing your skills so you can reach your goals.
If you adopt a growth mindset in life, then everything becomes a learning opportunity. You’ll learn from your past mistakes and success stories. You will learn from other people’s experiences and develop your own unique way of doing things.
The best part about a growth mindset is you can’t fail because you’re always growing and learning. If you don’t quit, then you’ll just be improving yourself and developing new skills along the way. You’ll never stop moving forward in life because it’s not important to you to do so.
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