What Does “Believe in the Me That Believes in You” Mean?

Believe in the me that believes in you is saying that comes from Buddhist psychology and from the self-help genre. This phrase is popularized by Rhonda Byrne, an author who had written books about metaphysics and success in attracting what you want.

However, there are a lot of definitions for this phrase. The most common meaning is when you put your faith in yourself first before doing anything else, like believing that you can achieve a goal or change something about yourself first before reaching out to others to have them believe in it as well.

Examples of the saying in use

The best way to understand this is through a hypothetical scenario. Let’s say, for instance, that you are going to school and then work each day. You’re tired from the beginning of your day until the end of it because even though both days are stressful they seem to be equally exhausting (i.e., you don’t seem to be able switch gears between work and school). And then you say to yourself, “I’m tired today, but I still want to attend class and get a good grade. However, I think that I won’t be able to concentrate in class or get myself together by the time it’s my time to go home.”

Let’s say you believe in yourself enough at this point that you decide not even to take out the stress of school or work on yourself. You keep going and put all your effort into your classes and getting them done well. You do this because you think it will lead to future things and because ultimately you want to be a person in a position of power. You go to school, come home, and study some more (remembering that you were already exhausted from the work related activities).

Then you go to work for the day (since your very first day at a job isn’t going as well as you’d hoped) but this time you are able to do your job better than in past days. You feel empowered by this and decide to give yourself a pat on the back. You think that you have done ok in your first day at work, but you still think that there is a lot more work to be done. You however don’t say to yourself that you are strong and capable of achieving success. What you do is talk about how it’s going well for work today, but still see things wrong, sorta like how some people might talk about how all the rain in Miami doesn’t mean there’s a hurricane coming.

You work hard, giving 100% to the job, but something bad happens to you at work. You were fired. You were let go because they didn’t think that you are capable of doing your job well. Neither do they think that you’re a nice person and a good fit for their position (they thought you tried to push them too far for your own good and that it was an act of good faith). You are confused and feel sad. You feel like the job you did was not good enough to warrant the job for this long, but all you do is praise yourself for believing in yourself and going hard for it.

The point being that at this point, even though you handled everything well out of your control (work) and everything else went ok (school and work), you still believe in what you put your hands on from the beginning of day 1, but then your actions didn’t turn out how they were supposed to. You need to believe in the me that believes in you for everything that’s not you to work out for the best. And even if everything does work out for the best, there is still a possibility of your actions not turning out as expected.

This also brings into play the fact that when people say “believe in the me that believes in you,” they don’t mean “believe blindly in yourself and assume things will go well.” This is because it’s easy to assume things without trying anything and then end up doing nothing. They mean that you have to be humble. You have to put faith in something that you don’t have complete knowledge of and only through an act of faith can you be a believer and continue forward.

Common usages

“You have to believe in the things you don’t know.”

“Believe in yourself. You can do it!” (said by parents or teachers usually when someone is facing a big challenge)

“If I can help it, I’m going to get back on my feet. I’m going to believe in the me that believes in you.”

Quotes and popular usages

“Believe in the me that believes in you” is also a common quote when people are trying to help someone else who’s surrounded by things they can’t control. For instance, one might say: “Just believe a little bit more. Believe in yourself. You can do it. I believe in you. Believe in the me that believes in you.”

It is also common to hear the phrase “I believe in the me that believes in you” as a cheery motivational saying or as advice.

What “believe in the me that believes in you” means?

You can take this phrase literally to mean that you should put your faith on yourself before placing your faith on someone else and/or before trying to change yourself before trying to change anything around you. See the next section to understand this meaning better.

Or you can take this phrase figuratively or metaphorically. It’s hard to explain, but you could say that it means that it is better to place your faith in yourself before doing anything else, like believing in yourself before trying another path or trying out a different person based on something someone else said. In this case, “I believe in the me that believes in you” means “I believe on my own because nothing someone else said will work as well. I believe I know and understand myself better than anyone else.” Or, “I believe in the me that believes in me” means “I don’t trust someone else to tell me what to do. I need to do whatever works best for me and doesn’t hurt my way of life.”