At some point in our lives, we need to move forward. Each of us felt as though we were in a rut. Maybe you feel like you’re in a rut right now. When something like this occurs, it may feel impossible to continue making progress towards the accomplishment of your objectives and dreams. This is a very tough position to be in. But things don’t have to be this way.
If you are truly interested in moving forward, you should consider certain techniques that can help you develop the skills necessary to overcome this mental and emotional challenge. You will begin to feel motivated again, and before you know it, you’ll be on your way towards accomplishing your goals.
Why does everything feel hopeless?
Let’s start by looking at some of the core problems that are present in our lives right now that may be at the root of feeling like we’re trapped.
The first is that you’re feeling hopeless because you’ve experienced failure. As any child will tell you, failure is never fun for anyone. The hardest part about it, however, is that when you feel like a failure it can make it really tough to actually start making progress again.
So how do you deal with that? The answer is to get rid of negative self-talk. This is something that so many people have trouble doing. It might seem strange, but whenever we fail at something physically or emotionally, it causes our self-esteem to take a hit. Once this happens, our confidence tends to take a dip and we begin saying things like, “I suck” or “I’m worthless”. It’s really easy to allow this type of negative thinking to consume us.
When this starts to occur, we need to immediately change our self-talk. Whether you know it or not, the things that you say to yourself are extremely powerful. It’s important for you to recognize that whenever we tell ourselves that we’re worthless or can’t do something, it becomes much more difficult for us to make progress and move forward in life.
Let’s look at 12 things you can do to help you move forward in life
Below is a list of things that you can do to help you move forward from the rut you’re in. They are designed to help you develop the necessary skills to do this. You don’t need to do them all but treat them more as a toolkit to help you change your mindset to get you moving forward again.
1. Start by taking a few moments each day to do something that you enjoy doing:
You should try to find ways to incorporate enjoyable activities into your life on some level. While you’re working on this, you should also make it a point to do so in a way that will bring you joy and happiness on a consistent basis. This will help reinforce the idea that there are things in our lives that we can still be excited about even when we feel like a failure or in a rut.
Typically the things you enjoy also make you feel good about your abilities. So this will help you boost your self-confidence and self-image.
2. Learn how to do things differently:
This is another concept that most people struggle with. It’s easy to become so “tuned out” during the day that we forget about our own abilities and skills. And for many of us, this is something that can lead us to feel stuck and unable to move forward in life.
To break out of the rut you’re in, it’s a good idea for you to make a point of developing new ways to do things. This will help you build your skills and keep your mind sharp.
3. Set aside time each day to do things that challenge you physically:
Sometimes it’s good to get out of our comfort zones and learn new things that can develop us as people. This is also a great way to help break down the negative rut-like thinking that we’ve developed as a defence mechanism.
You can take on a new physical challenge by working out regularly. If you’re overweight, you can start by walking every day and working your way into jogging. You can also look into joining a tennis or basketball league if you don’t like the sport of running. And let’s not forget about swimming. This is something that many people find to be quite relaxing.
4. Get professional help when necessary:
It’s important for you to tell the truth about your life and not make any excuses. When you have professional advice from someone that you can trust, it can be a great way to identify certain problems in your life and work towards a solution. This is especially true when it comes to overcoming a long-term mental or emotional challenge. A good therapist can be very helpful in making you see that these feelings are not natural and that you now have the resources to work through them.
5. Get rid of toxic people in your life
Sounds harsh but it’s a fact. It’s these people that make you feel bad about yourself and how you look at life. If there are certain people in your life that make you feel like this, it’s very important for you to recognize who they are and then eliminate them from your life as much as possible. This can be a bit of a challenge, but it’s well worth the trouble.
Removing negative people from your life can help you feel better about yourself and the direction that your life is going. They can also give you a breather from the self-talk that’s making you feel bad about yourself.
6. Learn how to ignore negative thoughts:
It’s important for us to have a mental defence mechanism in place. However, we often unknowingly develop negative thinking habits that are detrimental to our well-being and happiness.
The best thing that you can do when this happens is to change your thought patterns and find ways to ignore the negative thoughts. This will help you move forward in life by allowing you to live a more productive existence.
7. Be aware that feeling bad will never get you what you want:
No one wants to feel bad about themselves and how they look at their lives. Unfortunately, many times we subconsciously use these negative feelings as a way of creating an excuse not to do something or keep us in our comfort zone.
This is why it’s so important to realize that you can’t always feel good about yourself or have a positive outlook on life. But what you CAN do is learn to recognize when this is occurring and then turn things around for the better. And once you do, these negative thoughts will no longer have a hold on you.
8. Be honest with yourself:
A lot of the time we are our own worst enemies. By learning how to be honest with yourself, you will be able to see things clearly and identify the things that are holding you back.
9. You must forgive yourself:
It’s human to make mistakes. We all make them and we are often our own worst critics when it comes to those decisions we wish we could take back. But if you let the regret of your past decisions consume you, then this will keep you stuck in a rut for some time.
The best way to move forward is to forgive yourself for things that you’ve done and focus on the future. You can do this by encouraging yourself to focus on the positive, and as a result, you’ll feel more motivated to begin taking new steps towards a better life.
10. Ask for help when you need it:
This sounds easy but it’s something that many people don’t do. It’s easy to see how life can get overwhelming which is why we sometimes choose to take on too much at once. As a result, there are times when we need someone by our side to help guide us in the right direction.
One way to do this is to ask your friends and family for help. They can help you get motivated again and find ways to make you see that things can improve in your life. One way they can do this is by showing you how they’ve faced similar struggles and have overcome them.
11. Have an attitude of gratitude
I’m sure you’ve heard of this before, but it’s worth repeating. A grateful attitude can do wonders for your life. By learning how to have an attitude of gratitude, you are helping to keep yourself in a positive frame of mind. This is yet another way to break out of that mental rut that we talked about earlier.
Mediation is a great way to keep yourself in the present and stop yourself from thinking about the past or the future. Instead, you can use it as a way to focus on the here and now and end up feeling much better about your life and your current circumstances.
It’s a great practice in mindfulness and helps to clear out the negative thoughts that may cloud our minds from time to time.
How a growth mindset can help you move forward
Fostering a growth mindset is so important for your well-being and happiness. It can help you see things in a more positive light and motivate you to break through any mental blocks that might be holding you back.
This is especially true if you are feeling stuck in a rut because of the things that have happened in the past. By working to adopt this type of mindset, you can begin your journey towards success once again.
A growth mindset will help in this situation because it helps you see things in a more positive light while holding yourself back from wallowing in self-pity.
You can use the advice that I’ve shared here to help you foster a growth mindset. Try all the steps one at a time and see if it makes any difference in your mood or outlook on life. If it does, then you can continue with these steps until you have worked through those negative thoughts that are troubling you.
Moving forward in life can sometimes be a bit difficult because of the challenges we face and the mistakes that we make along the way. But if you learn how to deal with these problems and utilize aspects of your personality in a positive way, then you can help yourself succeed as an individual.
The growth mindset is something that will help you overcome these problems, as it helps you see things in a more positive light. It holds you back from succumbing to self-pity and instead encourages you to reach your full potential.
So if you are feeling stuck in a rut try the 12 suggestions above and see if that helps move you towards a better future.
Maybe you have some other suggestions to overcome the feeling of being stuck in a rut? If so, please leave them in the comments below so I can learn more about what others are doing to overcome their struggles.
I wish you all the best and hope that this article has helped shed some light on this subject for you and others who might be dealing with these same struggles.